I always tell those who are pregnant with their first to take advantage of distraction-free naps and time alone with your spouse! Pilot and I were pretty good in the beginning, after having Peter, about going on a date night at least once a month. Of course, life happens and we realized it had been 4 months without time alone! Parenting takes its toll and I am able to tell by less patience and oh yea, who’s that man I lay in bed with every night?
This past weekend Pilot and I were able to attend a wedding in New Orleans. Yeehaw! Right?! Well, those of you who are reading this and have not done a date night since your first child… 5 years ago, know why this is easier said than done. When we first got the save-the-date for the wedding Pilot looked at me and without saying anything I knew, we have to go. “But it’s so hard for me to leave the kids!” Waaaa. That’s me. I’m so guilty of this but when this opportunity came up I sucked it up, packed my pump, and left for the airport.
Our past year has been especially difficult. Pilot left on deployment when I was only 2 months pregnant and didn’t officially return until a week before Catalina was born (She is 6 months old now)! So, we have not spent quality time together in a really long time. We needed this, and for all of you who are thinking to yourself of all the excuses that are stewing in your head, knock it off!
I was quick to come up with plenty of reasons why I shouldn’t go to New Orleans; however, I eventually came up with the solutions below.
Reasons I shouldn’t go:
#1: I am nursing.
#2: I hate pumping.
#3: I don’t want to get mastitis again (I have had it 5 times between my 2 kids)!
#4: I’m going to miss them too much to sleep at night.
#5: I don’t want to pay an arm and a leg for a babysitter.
#1: Take the dang pump!
#2: Suck it up and pump. The fun will outweigh the suckiness (no pun intended).
#3: Ummm…yea, kinda crossed my fingers on that one.
#4: You really won’t miss the kids if they are with someone you trust.
#5: My sister and her husband watched both my kids! They are the wind beneath my wings! I understand not everyone has this luxury, but if you have good friends that can take the kids or sibling, parents, just reassure them that when it’s time for them to want to get away, you will be there for them!
Once we landed in New Orleans we went straight to the hotel, unpacked, then hit the French Quarter. We went to Acme Oyster House and had the most delicious charbroiled oysters!!! I grew up eating raw oysters in Mexico but this was a game changer! Then we stopped in Mango Mango for the largest Hurricane they had. Pilot and I walked Bourbon street, sipped our slushies (Daiquiris), and did some of the most legit people watching. I smiled a few times when I would see other tourists with their stroller, kids, diaper bags, and the frazzled look in their eyes…just a little reminder that that’s not me. Haha Kinda mean but man, it felt good to not have to worry about anyone else but myself! Pilot and I walked hand in hand all weekend and sat uninterrupted at breakfast, lunch and dinner. I’m not trying to rub it in, I swear. Those of you who do get away once a year, or maybe even more, good job and I am sure your marriage shows for it. Pilot and I need this time to rekindle what we had before kids. Our kids also need to understand the importance of Mom and Dad staying madly in love!
Stay focused on the love that started it all. If it’s dinner at home while the kids are at the in-laws, going to New Orleans for a wedding, or going to lunch down the street, strive to find those butterflies you got in your stomach when you had your first kiss. Now go have fun you love birds!