When I say “self-help,” what is the first thing that comes to mind? When I ask people that question they usually respond with negative connotations about the phrase. In my life, I have never been one to read novels or literature that doesn’t help me in one way or another. When I recommend books to people, I’m not implying you need help! I’m pretty much implying that I do.
I will never say I am the best-version-of-myself at any point. I wake up everyday and ask myself, how can I be a better person today? Who can I serve? I strive to be the-best-version-of-myself and I choose to start my day with this mentality.
What book am I reading right now? It’s called, Resisting Happiness by Matthew Kelly. I love this author first of all because his values and religious beliefs are in sync with mine and he truly inspires me to better myself.
When I wake up in the morning I have a routine and when I stick to the routine I tend to have a better day. This is how it goes.
I wake up and stretch. Then I apply my Gratitude oil (a roller bottle filled with the essential oils of Frankincense, Wild Orange, White Fir topped with fractionated coconut oil) over my heart, on the palm of my hands rub them together and place my hands over my nose and take a few deep breaths. While doing this I acknowledge the gifts God has given me and thank him for his presence. Then I grab my Bible and The Word Among Us to read and meditate on the reading of the day. By this point at least 2 of my 3 kids are awake and that’s fine! I make it a point to finish this morning ritual of mine so I can set the pace for the day (God knows I need as much help as I can get).
Do you have a morning routine? If you don’t, try making one. If it’s just to stretch and acknowledge your blessings, great! I believe when we start our day with stating the things we are grateful for, it puts positivity in the lead then we are more cognizant of continuing the day with positivity.
Matthew Kelly says in his book, “Life is messy, and it is not enough just to talk about the mess. We are each called to do something about it.” It is so easy to talk about our problems. Resistance wants us to talk about our problems. Resistance is doing what we know will not make us happy but we do it anyway. Talking about all the negative things in life will not make you nor myself happy. It just won’t. So next time you have a choice between doing what is right and what is easy, fight the resistance and choose what you know is right and will make you happy!
Do you have kids? Than you know the saying, when it rains it pours.
February I gave birth to my third child in Nevada. My parents live in San Diego so my mom came up for the birth but wasn’t able to stay long because, believe it or not, my sister was also due with her baby! My mom left Nevada back for San Diego when Edith was just a few days old. My husband went back to work the same morning and I was left with 3 kids by myself for the first time. That morning, my 1 year old woke up covered in vomit! Alas, so did my 3 year old son. What else was there to do other than cry and feel sorry for myself? Here I was, alone for the first time and 2 of my 3 kids had the stomach flu for the first time.
This is why I read self help books. Bathing in my own pity party was not going to help me or my kids so I decided to put my positive pants on. The best thing to do in this situation was to talk out loud and thank God for my kids. For giving me the opportunity to be there for my kids when they needed me. Resistance wanted in. It would have been easy to resist the happiness. Instead I gave resistance the boot and chose happiness. In the end and the long run it made me feel better then and now!
When I choose to make the decision that will help me be the-best-version-of-myself, I am filled with grace. When I choose what I know is not good for me or negative, the grace and joy dissipates.
Choose Joy. Notice when resistance shows itself and tell him who’s boss!